20+ Specs of low Self-esteem people before taking self improvement courses

There are many, many indicators that a person has low self-esteem. Previously we discussed sources of low self-esteem, here.

But How to know if you have low self-esteem character consider this list. 

People with low self-esteem:

·        Consider themselves lost, unworthy of being cared for

·        Are poor risk takers

·        Operate out of a fear of rejection

·        Are typically unassertive in their behavior with others

·        Are fearful of conflict with others

·        Are hungry for the approval of others

·        Are poor problem solvers

·        Are fraught with irrational beliefs and have a tendency to think irrationally

·        Are susceptible to all kinds of fears

·        Have a tendency to become emotionally stuck and immobilized

·        Have a poor "track record" in school or on the job; conversely, they sometimes over compensate and become over-achievers

·        Are unable to affirm or to reinforce themselves positively

·        Are unable to make an honest assessment of their strengths, qualities, and good points; they find it difficult to accept compliments or recognition from others

·        Have poorly defined self-identities with a tendency to be chameleons in order to fit in with others

·        Are insecure, anxious, and nervous when they are with others

·        Often become overcome with anger about their status in life and are likely to have chronic hostility or chronic depression

·        Are easily overcome with despair and depression when they experience a setback or loss in their lives

·        Have a tendency to overreact and become de-energized by resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge against those whom they believe have not fully accepted them

·        Fulfill roles in their families of origin that are counter-productive and maladaptive.  These roles carry over into their adult lives

·        Are vulnerable to mental health problems and have a propensity to use addictive behavior to medicate their hurt and pain.  Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, shopping, smoking, working too much, or the search for excitement, truth, wisdom, and a guru with an easy guide to the achievement of happiness

                      

Kind of overwhelming, isn't it?  Do you recognize yourself in any of these statements?  Don’t feel alone.  Actually, low self-esteem is actually quite a widespread problem.  And if you suffer from this problem, it can cause some more – even serious – problems.

Low self-esteem can have devastating consequences.

·        It can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased likelihood for depression.

·        It can cause problems with friendships and relationships.

·        It can seriously impair academic and job performance.

·        It can lead to underachievement and increased vulnerability to drug and alcohol abuse.

  

Worst of all, these negative consequences themselves reinforce the negative self-image and can take a person into a downward spiral of lower and lower self-esteem and increasingly non-productive or even actively self-destructive behavior.

                                
There are actually three “faces” that people with low self-esteem wear. Read the next Article.